Five Love Language Gary Chapman A Love Language Minute

​You've tried to express your feelings to your controlling spouse, but your attempt to address it doesn't seem to work. Dr. Gary Chapman suggests you seek counseling to deal with the pain. Invite your spouse to join you. Let them know you're going with or without them.

​How can I speak a love language to someone of the opposite sex in the work place without being accused of harassment? Dr. Gary suggests speaking the language of appreciation and avoiding the rest.

​My friend doesn't want to go to church any more. How can I change their mind? Dr. Gary Chapman says your life speaks louder than words. Seeing the difference Biblical teaching makes in your life will be far more effective than trying to talk them in to going.

​What do you do when you're married to a controller? Dr. Gary Chapman says don't assume they know how that makes you feel. Don't condemn your spouse for being controlling, but share the truth with him about how that affects you emotionally.

​How do you discover your child's love language? Dr. Gary Chapman encourages you to have them take the 5 Love Languages online quiz to learn what their love language is. Then learn to speak their primary and secondary love languages. Your child will feel loved as a result.

​For many, self-worth is tied to their performance. Dr. Gary Chapman says failing at something doesn't make the person a failure.

​Does living together before marriage equip you with needed relationship skills? Dr. Gary Chapman says that may sound logical on the surface; but research bears out that those who live together before marriage are much more likely to divorce.

​What do I do when my spouse always points out my flaws? Dr. Gary Chapman says people rarely respond well to criticism. Agree as a couple, to point out at least one positive thing you see in them each week. You just may see a shift to the positive!

​Dr. Gary Chapman says love is an action, not a feeling. Even if you don't have positive feelings toward your spouse, choose to do something you know they would appreciate whether you feel like it or not. Over time, your spouse will respond to your unconditional love.

Your words have a profound impact on your child. Dr. Gary Chapman says speaking negative or positive words will cause them perceive themselves in light of what you say. Choose your words carefully.

​Dr. Chapman proposes a challenge to couples to make their relationship better. Be open to suggestions for improvement from your spouse, and then commit to work on it. Your efforts will display unconditional love in action.

​My fiancé flirts with other women. How can I trust him? Dr. Gary Chapman says trust has to be won by one's behavior. If he's flirting before marriage, he will flirt after marriage. Deal with this issue before getting married.

​What happens when a married couple has the same love language? Dr. Gary Chapman says having the same love language can be helpful; but it can be further helped by speaking a dialect within the love language to enhance their relationship.

​Expecting your spouse to be the first one to show love misses out on the power of unconditional love. Dr. Gary Chapman says unconditional love is a choice to show love, regardless of whether or not it's reciprocated.

​How do I connect with my child as a single parent? Dr. Gary Chapman says that in the limited time you have as a single parent, knowing and speaking your child's love language will be far more effective in filling up your child's love tank.